Animalistic sack sessions belong waaay up on every Cosmo girl’s gotta-have-it list. But slow, soulful encounters shouldn’t get second billing just because they don’t leave cracks in the bedroom walls. “This kind of sex is deeper than connecting physically,” says New York City sex therapist Joy Davidson, PhD, author of Fearless Sex. “It’s about losing yourself in the moment and bonding emotionally as well.” So do yourselves a favor and, some nights, put the following soulful-sex advice into action. Read more

… Having been a professional paramour all my adult life, I was struck by the recent resurgence of requests for romantic interludes. I started to wonder: What has caused so many people to suddenly feel so alone and in need of an ear, a hand to hold, or casual dinner conversation? The answer is simple.

In my opinion, modern Americans have failed miserably when it comes to differentiating between the words “sex” and “sensuality.” Our view of what is “sexy” has become so askew that many women and men don’t even know what their own desires are anymore. With most contemporary portrayals of sexuality being outright promiscuity and tactless drunken debauchery, it’s not surprising that women and men have lost sight of the joys and need for sensuality. Between this severely misguided view of human sexuality and the pressures of our everyday lives, the sex lives of most Americans have been stunted. Those involved in relationships, and even those who are battling through the “dating scene,” are faced with the pressures to conform to what society is telling us sex should be. Read more

We all want to give women orgasms when we have sex with them, and cunnilingus is the best and fastest way to do that. However, just making an effort is not enough. It also takes a little knowledge. Here are ten cunnilingus tips to give a woman the best, most intense orgasms she ever had:

1) Don’t just dive in. Tease first. As a start, licking her from the vaginal opening up to her clitoris and following the outer edges of her vagina covering both sides, going up and down (and vice versa) can be a great way to relax her and get her in the mood. Read more

One of the goals of Tantric sex is to increass intimacy between partners. Some sex positions encourage higher levels of emotional connection than others. These positions allow a couple to go beyond their sensory experience, intensifying the intimacy of their sexual connection and imbuing it with emotional meaning. Missionary position is a favorite of many women because it is a face-to-face position, but other positions can enhance intimacy as well. Here are five sex positions that can increase the emotional connection for couples.

1) Woman on Top

A man lying down with the woman on top can be a vulnerable position for both lovers, which in itself can create emotional intimacy. He must rely on her actions, while she is bared and exposed for his viewing. This position is ideal for lots of touching and intimate caresses.

2) Hold Me

In this sex position, the man holds the woman as if she’s just jumped into his arms. With her legs wrapped around his waist and her arms around his neck, this position is conducive to slow movements, passionate kisses, and romantic swaying.

3) Slow Going

In this sex position, the man is seated, legs extended, leaning back on his arms. The woman sits on top facing him, then leans back herself and extends her legs behind him. By necessity, this position requires slow, gentle movements. There is an electric emotional intimacy in not being able to move much, only being able to watch each other.

4) Legs Entwined

To move into Legs Entwined, you should both lie on your side with your legs outstretched, the woman should then lift her upper leg and place it on top of her partner’s leg, bending it slightly. The man can then enter her deeply and pull her towards him by grasping her hip. By pulling her and then letting her go a little, she will rock on and off his penis.

5) Yab-Yum

The Yab-Yum sex position offers deep emotional intimacy. To get into this position, the man should sit on the floor with his knees bent wide open. The woman then sits with her legs over his thighs and her feet on the floor. The man pulls your partner close to enable him to penetrate her. This position gives just enough stimulation to maintain arousal, and while it may not result in orgasm for either of you, you’ll enjoy gently rocking in tandem while kissing, caressing, and gazing into your partner’s eyes.

In Tantric sex, the emotional connection between partners is just as important as the physical connection. One way to achieve that emotional connection is to use a sex position that enhances intimacy. That intimacy will make sex with your lover, not only more intense, but also more rewarding.

When personal Tantra instruction is either inconvenient or too expensive, Al Link and Pala Copeland’s Sexual Mastery Course and Kerry and Diane Riley’s Ultimate Home Tantra Course are two excellent self-teaching courses. I highly recommend either of these courses for those who can’t find a local Tantra teacher, attend a Tantra workshop, or just want to explore Tantra in the privacy of their own home.

American Pie, Sex and the City and other feature films have referenced it, Sting and sex therapists are raving about it, people everywhere are talking about it, but what is Tantric Sex? In this article I will give you the low-down on this new (or maybe not so new) phenomenon. If you are ready to give this well-kept secret a go, keep reading for my quick-start guide.

What is Tantric Sex?

Tantric sex utilises the ancient Eastern practices of Tantra, using breath, sounds and movements to activate sexual energy. It is said to bring you and your partner’s sex life to greater states of sensual pleasure and intimacy. Tantric sex is different from other well-known practices, such as Kama Sutra, as it is not solely based on sex positions but is a whole new way of life. The focus is not on achieving multiple or even quick orgasms, but in fact the complete opposite, its aim is to prolong the act of sex thus increasing the sexual energy between you and your partner.

So if you want to experience a powerful flow of energy and intimacy between you and your partner, decreased stress and greater sexual satisfaction, here are some helpful hints. Read more

Some time ago I came across an amusing article written by ‘serious’ spiritual practitioners, castigating modern day tantrikas for “cheating” – taking shortcuts to spirituality and doubting their spiritual sincerity. Apparently, what typically takes ‘serious’ meditators years of intense spiritual discipline to achieve is available to a Tantrika in just a few months.

Therefore, they questioned whether something might be amiss, as you certainly couldn’t have all those grand cosmic experiences simply by just ‘indulging’ in extended pleasure time! You need to seriously meditate ‘the proper way’, in order to achieve these fruits of hard labor and concentration!

Well, I’m here to say that God is not always serious, and enlightenment is not the exclusive domain of hard workers or the intellectual elite… if so, the world would have collapsed long ago. Instead, I believe that we are ALL innately equipped to experience our divinity through doing what we enjoy, realizing our true essence – love – by making love. And I mean that literally – when consciousness penetrates… energy love is the result. Read more